5 Ways To Test Your Frame With Women
At Principles of Seduction, I talk a lot about frame…
Reason being, it’s an incredibly important aspect of gaming women.
If you’re not familiar with the term frame, it’s simply the agreed narrative that people view you as. You can think of your frame as being your “brand”.
For a second let’s pretend you’re a chef.
You could frame yourself as just some guy who cooks decent food, or you could frame yourself as a master chef who cooks the finest cuisine imaginable. Your meals are works of art.
See the difference?
Of course your frame is something that you have to negotiate with the people and the world around you.
You can beat your chest and tell the world your the greatest chef to ever walk the earth. But if other folks have tasted your food and think it tastes like garbage then your going to lose your frame.
You get the point.
That’s enough talk about chefs. Let’s bring this back into the world of seduction and gaming women.
The ideal frame you want to present to women you want to seduce is as follows:
You’re a decisive leader. You stay calm, cool and collected under pressure. You know what you want and you know exactly how to get it.
That’s the frame you want to present, and you should be displaying those qualities through your personality, and the things you say and do to back up that frame.
Doing this should give you pretty good control of your frame.
But how can you really tell if your in control of your frame, and that the girl your talking to agrees with your frame?
Well it’s very simple. You just have to put your frame to the test.
And here’s 5 of the very best ways to check your frame isn’t slipping.
#1 – Listen To Your Gut
Do you ever get that feeling in your gut that something is a little off with your interactions with women lately?
It could be your frame.
Maybe your chasing girls a little bit too much. Maybe your being too passive and agreeable. You’re gut is telling you that you’re not acting like a real man should.
If you feel like this, your gut is probably right.
Take some time to think back over the interactions you’ve had with women lately. Make note of where you’ve been going wrong. Where you tried too hard. The situations where you were too eager to please and put the wants and needs of a woman before your own.
If you’ve done any of that. You’ve lost your frame.
Listen to your gut, correct your behavior and regain your frame.
#2 – Are You Valuing Women More Than Yourself
Take a look at how you’ve been spending your time as of late.
Have you been skipping the gym and spending more time and money on chasing women?
Is your time spend gaming taking away from other productive elements of your life?
Then it’s high time to re-adjust your frame.
If you take anything away from the advice here at Principles of Seduction, it’s that YOU always come first.
Sure, going out and gaming women is a great thing to do, 1 or 2 nights per week, but it shouldn’t take away from the other aspects of your life. When you start to value the pursuit of woman above your own best interests then your frame is going to go out of wack – and ironically, you’ll end up having less success with women.
Funny how that works, isn’t it?
#3 – Test Your Frame With Women
Have a girl you’ve been seeing for a little while now?
Great, because she’s the ideal person to test your frame on. You’re going to know instantly if you’ve let your frame slip to much from the dominant male to a passive schlub.
There’s many ways to do this:
You can change plans (time or venue) with her at the last minute and note her response.
Strongly disagree with something she says. Check her response.
Ask her to run an errand for you. Pick up some laundry for you, or grab you something at the shops. Note her reaction.
If she kicks up a fuss in any of these scenarios, you’re frame is slipping.
#4 – How Needy Are You Acting?
I’ve said it many times before, and I’ll say it many times again.
Nothing kills attraction more than acting needy.
And neediness doesn’t do your frame any favors either.
Ask yourself these questions. Are you asking to spend time with a girl more often than she’s asking to hang out with you?
Are you texting her more than she texts you?
Are you spending a lot of time with her but not getting laid?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re acting too needy and it’s killing your frame.
Fix your behavior and regain your frame.
#5 – How Many Sh*ts Do you Give?
How much do you really care? That’s the all important question.
It’s a well established relationship maxim that the person who cares the least in a relationship, holds all the power.
This goes for casual “unofficial” relationships just as much as serious long term relationships.
Which isn’t to say you shouldn’t care at all…
Caring about a relationship can be very rewarding. And you should still put time and effort into your relationships.
But you shouldn’t care about your relationship any more than your girl cares about it.
You should be comfortable with the idea of walking away from it at a moments notice.
If you’re not, your frame WILL suffer. Make no mistake about it.
Your overall happiness should not be derived from the pleasure you get from one particular relationship. You should not rely upon the validation of a woman to make you happy.
Once you free yourself from this validation paradigm and instead derive your happiness from who you are as a person and all the things you’ve achieved, then you will be 1ox happier than before…
And your frame will be practically unshakable.