3 Core Principles Of Good Game
You could spend a lifetime reading game advice, delving into all the different takes on it, and deciding what sounds right for you – but here’s the cold hard truth.
Sure, reading advice is great and it will help you a lot. But if… and only if… you actually go out and apply it and put in the hours of practice.
A guy who has read zero game advice but has spent 100 hours approaching women will have better game than a guy who has spent hundred hours reading game advice and zero hours approaching women.
Of course, there’s a happy medium to be struck for optimal game.
I reckon it’s somewhere 1 hour reading game advice to every 5 hours actually talking to women.
Of course, you might spend a little more time reading when you’re starting out, and less time reading when you’re rockin’ and rollin!
But when you spend too much time reading, and not enough time out gaming, you’re going to run into a big problem.
You’re likely going to be overthinking things.
It’s a bit of a paradox.
When you’re not out gaming, you can get better by thinking about game. But when you are out gaming, you’re going to get the best results when you’re not consciously thinking about game.
You’ve got to be present and in the moment.
You’re game should come across naturally.
What this means is that you shouldn’t appear as if you’re trying to hard to seduce the girl you’re talking to. The less you seem like you’re trying – the less effort you appear to be putting in – the more attractive you’re going to be.
But with all that being said, you still need to know what qualities women find attractive in men and know how to subtly display these qualities.
When you break game down into its core components, you’ll find that there are really 3 core principles of good game.
Whether your a rank newbie or a game aficionado, these core principles will still apply.
And they are:
#1 – Develop And Display Attractive Male Qualities
Some guys just seem to be total chick magnets, and have women flocking to them, without them seeming to do very much, or put in very much effort.
And the reason behind the success of these men, is because they have – either naturally, or through conscious effort – cultivated and displayed qualities in themselves that women find attracted.
To understand what qualities women find attractive in men, it’s sometimes easier to first look at what qualities they find unattractive.
- Anxiety
- Indecisiveness
- Lack of Planning
- Lack of direction
- Instability
- Moodiness
Or to encapsulate all these qualities under one of the big five personality traits – neuroticism.
Neuroticism is typically a feminine trait (meaning females generally tend to score higher in this category that males) so it’s unsurprising that women generally tend to find these qualities unattractive.
The masculine qualities women find attractive are generally the opposite of neurotic.
These include:
- Decisiveness
- Assertion
- Calmness
- Productivity
- Physicality
- Consistency
These are some of the attractive personality traits that you want to adopt and cultivate if you want to appear naturally attractive to women.
They won’t all come quickly, and they can’t be switched on and off at a moments notice.
You can just flip on your “man switch” when you’re out on the pull at the weekend, and flip back to your “regular personality” during the week at work.
It doesn’t work like that.
They are traits that you have to develop over time. They have to become part of you.
You can’t fake them.
Moving on to numero #2.
#2 – Vary Your Interest Levels
Women are great at picking up on subtle social cues. They’re hard-wired to do so.
If you like a girl, she’ll usually be able to tell right away just from subtle little things such as how you’re standing… your tone of voice… the way you look at her.
And if you know the first thing about game, you’ll know that you’re going to get the best results if the girl is unsure as to whether you’re into her or not.
There has to be a degree of mystery about you.
If she can read you like an open book, she’s not going to be interested in taking things with you any further.
So… what’s the solution.
It’s fairly simple. The trick is to vary your level of interest when you’re talking to a girl.
One minute you want to seem super into her. Rapt by her.
The next minute, you’re turning your back on her, yawning, looking disinterested.
That’s a bit of an extreme example, but you get the point. You want to be sending mixed signals so she’s not 100% sure as to how you feel about her.
And don’t worry about a girl ending a conversation with you because you don’t seem to be paying too much attention to her.
This rarely, if ever happens.
The fact is, most guys make the mistake of getting too clingy and paying too much attention to a woman way too soon. This comes across as super needy and there is nothing women find more unattractive in men than neediness.
By occasionally appearing disinterested in a woman, your attractiveness will actually rise in her mind.
So remember, vary your interest levels and come across as a little bit mysterious.
#3 – Let Her Chase You
Most men make the huge mistake of thinking they need to do more in order to make a woman more attracted to them.
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Sure, you have to take action at first and approach the woman – but once you’ve got her interest and have created those first few sparks of attraction, the less you do, the more attractive you’re going to seem.
Don’t call or text her for a few days. Act as if you’re not sure if you’ll bother seeing her again.
If those sparks of attraction are there, and she has a means of contacting you, it won’t be long before you’re hearing from her.
Especially if you done a good job at nailing the first 2 core principles mentioned in this article.
If a girl is reaching out to you, even if it’s such a text saying “Hey” it does 2 things.
- It tells you she’s definitely interested in you. Otherwise she wouldn’t have bothered texting you.
- It puts you in the #1 spot to move things forward with her.
Think about it. Attractive single women tend to get multiple messages a day from guys who all want to sleep with them. And they ignore most of them.
If you instead play it cool and let her reach out to you, guess who’s #1 in line for taking things to the next level with her?
It’s you.
These 3 core principles make up the basics of good game.
Sure, there is a lot more to game that what I’ve talked about in this article… but if you can dial in these 3 foundational principles, you’re going to have better game than 95% of the other guys out there.
I’ve given you the blueprint.
The rest is up to you.