Should you buy a woman a drink?

Today I’m going to give you my definitive answer to the age old question, which has plagued men ever since bars were invented…

If you’re out at a bar and you start talking to a woman, should you buy her a drink?

There’s many different schools of thought on this question, ranging from the chivalrous (but misguided) approach of always buying a woman a drink… and the approach propagated by internet keyboard warriors that you should never ever buy a women a drink. Ever. Period.

In my humble (and 100% correct) opinion, neither of these approaches are right.

And I’ll explain why…

First, let’s debunk the chivalrous approach of always buying drinks for the women you meet at bars.

I was recently reading an article written by a women that was all about different ways women could use to “get free drinks from chumps”.

The fact that such an article exists, and is popular, should be enough to debunk the idea that should always buy a woman a drink at a bar. Because if you do take that approach, some chicks are just going to take the piss out you, and use you for free drinks. Giving you nothing of value in return.

Let’s dive into the ways she mentioned in her article, and go over the correct responses so you can avoid being a “chump”.

The first line suggested in the article, was to ask the man “What are you drinking?”

A typical guy’s response to this might be “Rum and coke. Do you want a sip?” or “Do you want one”.

Your response should be “Rum and coke” or “Vodka tonic” or whatever it is you’re drinking. Keep it short and don’t just straight out offer to buy her a drink.

Her next suggestion was to say to men who aren’t drinking “Why aren’t you drinking?”

Most guy’s typical response to this would be to feel insecure and try and justify to this girl why they aren’t drinking. Or alternatively they’ll feel pressured into getting a drink and ultimately end up buying the girl a drink too.

Instead, you’re response should be something silly like “I just popped a Quaalude.”

Or make up a short jokey response of your own.

Whatever you do, don’t start justifying your decision to not drink to some dame you barely know.

The next line the women suggested using in the article was “I’m going to the bar to get a drink.”

The average guys response to this would be to jump at the opportunity to go with her, so he could talk to her more, and end up buying her a drink.

But you’re reading these emails… so you’re not just your average guy. The better response to use is “Okay cool. Come and find me later.”

Or if you’re feeling more audacious you could say “Cool. Get me a vodka tonic while you’re there!”

And the final line in the article suggested that women say to a guy “We should take a shot together!”

Once again, most guys are going to jump at this opportunity and will end up buying the girl a shot.

But the better response is to say something like “I think you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me.”

If a girl thinks any less of you because you won’t buy her a drink right away, then it means she didn’t think that much of you to begin with. So you lose nothing by refusing to buy a girl a drink right away.

But does this mean you should never buy a girl a drink?

Nope.

Here’s the thing. If a girl is only interested in you because she thinks she can get free drinks out of you, she’s going to give up fairly quickly if you refuse to buy her a drink right away.

So if you’ve been chatting to a women at a bar, one on one, for more than 15-20 minutes, and things are going well, then feel free to buy her a drink if you like.

Or don’t.

Just don’t be sucker for girls who only want you to pay for their bar tab.

And if you want to discover the easiest way to get a girl you meet at bar, back to your place (or her place), and into bed… then check out the Get Her In Bed program.

As always, here’s your link:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland