Jerk vs Nice Guy… Who wins?

Did you know that something as simple as how available you make yourself – e.g. how easy you are to get in touch with, and how often you’re available to spend time with a woman – can have a huge impact on how attract women find you?

Well, turns out it has a very significant effect, in ways that you might not suspect.

To illustrate my point, let’s set up a little hypothetical fight.

In the red the corner, we have the “Nice Guy”.

He’s always available to hang out with a woman. He will respond to texts and phone calls right away. And he is generally a very caring person.

And in the blue corner, we have the “Jerk”

The jerk is almost never available to hang out with a woman. He takes hours, and sometimes days to reply to text messages, if he even bothers to reply at all. He is mostly just interested in himself.

Now in this hypothetical fight between the “Nice Guy” (always available) and the “Jerk” (rarely available), who do you think wins?

Who do you think women would find more attractive?

Do your thinking now, and once you’re done, read below for my answer.

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If I was forced to pick one, I’d reckon that women would generally the jerk slightly more attractive…

BUT…

The REAL ANSWER is neither.

And I know this because at different points in life, I have been the “Nice Guy” and I have been the “Jerk”.

There was times when I was much younger, I was under the false impression that a lot of men have, that if I were just nice and caring to the girls I was attracted to, they’d appreciate me for it and in turn be attracted to me. However, this strategy just results in having a bunch of female friends who like you… but don’t find you attractive.

These girls like having you around, and like you as a friend. But they just don’t find you “exciting”. You don’t turn them on. And they tend to think that this blindingly obvious, so they come to the conclusion that you must also like them as “just a friend” and couldn’t possibly be attracted to them. It’s a terrible situation to get yourself into.

On the other hand, there have also been times in my life where I’ve been too busy with work, hobbies and other projects, that I’ve blown women off for weeks at a time. Not out of intentional rudeness or anything. I was just busy and had other things on my mind.

And when you blow women off, and become rarely unavailable… a strange thing happens.

At first, it will drive them crazy…

They will see it as a bit of a challenge to get with you…

They will become strongly attracted to you and chase after you…

But if you blow them off for too long – (I’ve found that 2 weeks tends to be most woman’s breaking point) – they will start to resent you, and their attraction to you will be gone.

So what’s the solution?

If being too available, like the stereotypical “nice guy”, never works… and if being too unavailable, like the stereotypical “jerk” stops working after a couple of weeks… the best approach lies somewhere in the middle.

You’ve got to be slightly unavailable.

Sometimes you’ll be available to spend time with her… Sometimes you won’t… Sometimes you might even cancel on meeting with her at the last minute. Most guys are too scared to do this, but in the past, whenever I’ve cancelled a date with a girl, my success rate with sleeping with her on the following date is incredibly high!

Sometimes you’ll answer her phone calls or respond to her texts right away… Sometimes you’ll text her back a few hours later.

This varying of behavior is going to keep her guessing, keep her interested in you, keep her excited by you, and will make you come across as a little bit mysterious.

All of which can strengthen the attraction a woman feels towards you.

Now, what I’ve just shared with you here is very powerful, but it’s only scratching the surface of the way attraction develops inside women’s minds.

I go into way more detail on all of this in the Get Her In Bed program, and once you get the complete picture, you’re going to immediately start having way more success with women.

So if you’re currently struggling with women – or just want to take you game to the next level – quit trying to invent the wheel and start following a program that works.

Here’s the link that’s gonna improve your life:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

Girls just wanna have fun

It’s true…

And if you’ve ever wondered how some girls could possibly be attracted to complete deadbeats who seemingly have nothing going for them… no job… no money… no stability… Then by the time you’re done reading this, you’ll understand completely and how you can use this knowledge to your advantage.

But first, let’s rap a little about the ways most guys go about trying to impress girls, and why they are largely ineffective.
One of the most common ways a guy will go about trying to get a girl is that he will try and show her how nice he is…

How caring he is…

How respectful he is…

These strategies are for the most part ineffective because they are based on the false (but fairly common) belief that women are soft, timid and innocent and they need to be cared for and protected. That they need to be made to feel safe. (Bah!)

So let’s shatter that belief right now. The vast majority of women are not timid, they are not so pure, and they are not so innocent.

In fact, most of the woman I’ve encountered have had far dirtier minds than most men I know, and they also have a much higher tendency to be manipulative than men do. (Hardly a feature of someone who is soft and innocent!)

And I’m not hating. As the saying goes, all is fair in love and war.

But here’s the real kicker.

Women don’t want protecting. They want excitement.

They want to be with someone who makes them FEEL excited.

And once you understand that, you will then realize why some girls are so attracted to guys who fall under the “bad boy” stereotype. Even if those guys have nothing else going for them in their lives.

So what does this mean for you?

It means you should stop trying to make woman like you by showing the caring and nurturing side of your personality.

Because she aint buying it.

She’s not in the market for safety. She’s in the market for excitement.

And if you can give off the vibe that your an exciting person to be around, you will have more women interested in you than you can shake your stick at.

Want to learn how you can develop a more exciting vibe that is like a magnet for hot women?

The 5 Principles Of Attraction in the Get Her In Bed program will show you how.

Here’s your link young Padawan:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

How not to be labelled as a creeper

Regular readers of these emails will know that I’m a big advocate of approaching women at various different places during the day time.

I thoroughly believe that daytime approaching is THE BEST way to meet quality women.

However, there is one issue with day time approaching that you’re eventually going to run into if you do a lot of approaches.

The issue?

Wearing out your usual venues and being labelled as a creepy.

If you regularly approach girls at the same places for any length of time, people who also regularly frequent those spots, and staff at those venues, will start to recognize you as the guy who comes there just to hit on girls.

And if you’ve really worn a spot out, you might end up accidentally approaching a girl who you’ve already approached a couple months earlier… or the staff at your favorite coffee shop might even ask you to leave…

These are not good situations to find yourself in…

So what are you to do?

How can you avoid wearing out your daytime approaching spots, whilst still regularly approaching girls during the day?

It’s a tricky question. But fear not, because Vince has the answers.

So long as you follow these 3 tips I’m about to share with you, you’ll never have to worry about wearing out a daytime venue.

** TIP 1 – Find New Daytime Spots To Approach Girls **

Coffee shops, parks, art galleries, museums, supermarkets, wine shops, clothes shops etc. You can approach woman just about anywhere.

So find some new spots that you’ve not used for daytime approaching before and do some approaches there.

** TIP 2 – Rotate Your Approach Venues **

Following on from tip number 1, you want to regularly rotate the places where you do your approaches.

For example, if you were to go to the same coffee shop, 5 days on the trot to hit on chicks, by day 2 or 3 the staff and regulars at the place are going to recognize you and know what you’re up to, and may even give you some dirty looks.

Whereas, if you took a couple of weeks break before your visits to that coffee shop, (and approached at different venues in the meantime) it’ll take a lot longer before anyone starts to consistently recognize you, and you’ll probably never end up wearing that spot out.

** TIP 3 – Be Friendly To The Staff At Your Spots **

And finally, if you’re doing your daytime approaches in shops or cafes, acting friendly to the staff and making small talk with them can go a long way to making you seem outgoing instead of creepy.

There’s a massive difference between the staff of a venue thinking, “Oh, there’s that creepy guy again trying to pick up girls. Better get rid of him” – And the staff thinking “Oh, there’s that friendly guy talking to another girl. He’s such a charmer.”

So long as you follow those 3 little nuggets of advice, you should never have to worry about wearing out your day time venues.

And if you’re unsure about how to approach a woman during the day…

Don’t worry, The Get Her In Bed program has got you covered.

In it you’ll find the best opening lines to use in almost every possible situation, as well as how to have exciting conversations that will lead to the woman giving you her number.

Here’s your link with all the details:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

Make her panties soaking wet by NOT doing this

Regular readers of these emails will know that your man big Vince here is always prattling on about how important it is to NOT be needy…

And I’m going to keep jabbering on about it because you really can’t hear this advice enough.

In fact, I could probably write a month’s worth of emails about all the pitfalls of neediness.

And the most amusing thing…

The people who most stubbornly insist that they don’t need to hear this advice are often the neediest people of them, and they’re living in denial. I know this because many years ago, young Vince was one of those people.

Especially in my teenage years and early 20’s.

And if there’s one thing that will repulse dames like garlic repulses Dracula, it’s neediness.

There’s plenty of guys out there who seem to have everything going for them. Model looks. The perfect body. A 6 figure income. An expensive sports car. But despite all these things they have going for them, they still can’t seem to get a women who’ll stick around. Reason being, they’re needy.

You should think of neediness like rotten fish guts.

They smell hideously disgusting.

It’s repulsive.

Now think of a whopping big rack full of expensive designer shoes and handbags that women just can’t seem to get enough of. Now imagine that same big rack of shoes and handbags now covered in rotten fish guts.

That’s what neediness does to a guy who seems to have everything else working in his favor.

Women can’t stand needy men.

Beautiful women especially…

Because good looking women naturally get the most attention from men, they are also subject to most amount of needy behavior from men, and have the least patience for it.

But on the other side of the coin…

When you become completely non-needy, you’ll start to find that chicks flock to you and your new panty soaking powers.

And best of all, you don’t even need to be the best looking guy in the world or be filthy rich in order to harness the power of non-neediness.

Women are going to find an average guy who is non-needy infinitely more attractive than a guy who has everything else working in his favor (money, looks, expensive clothes etc.) who is also needy.

Destroying your inner neediness is a tough fight, and it’s probably not something you’re going to be able to instantly do over night.

Killing your needy behaviors is a process.

You first have to recognize them and secondly have force yourself to stop doing them.

If you’re truly serious about stomping out your neediness for good, the first principle of attraction in the Get Her In Bed program is mandatory reading for you.

In it you’ll discover exactly how to eradicate your neediness for good & in turn become more charismatic.

The 5 principles of attraction are only available for Get Her In Bed members.

If you’re ready to blitz your neediness and start having more success with women starting today, here’s the link for you: https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

5 ways NOT to get laid

Knowing what to do in order to seduce smokin hot women into your bed is one thing… but it’s only half the battle.

It’s just as important to know what not to do, so viddy this list of 5 way NOT to get laid…

1. Don’t Approach Any Women

A great way to guarantee you’ll never get laid is to make sure you never approach or talk to any women.

If you want to reap the rewards of sex, you have to keep putting yourself out there and put in the effort to make approaches. Whether they’re good old fashioned, in-the-flesh, approaches, or online dating/tinder virtual approaches, it doesn’t matter.

You have to be consistently making some sort of approaches though if you want to get laid.

And if you want to learn how to make approaches in such a way that lead to digits, which lead to dates, which leads to banging, then check out the Get Her In Bed program.

You know where to go: https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

2. Have A Negative Attitude

Even if you’re making a ton of approaches, it’s not going to matter if you have a really negative attitude.

I know a lot of guys who are into the whole world of “pick up artistry” think they’re being super ninja by using “negs” (i.e. tactically putting a girl down) and that this will make the girl feel attracted to them.

I’m not saying that this will never work (because when used right, it can) but the type of girl those kind of “pick up tactics” attract is probably not the type of girl you want to spend a whole lot of time with.

Instead, put out a positive attitude, be someone that you’d want to spend time with and you’ll see a major difference in your success with approaches.

3. Be Scared Of Rejection

If you’re terrified of a girl rejecting you, you’re not going to get laid very often.

You’ve got to develop a thick skin if you want to have real success with women. If you’re approaching women regularly, you’re going to get rejected regularly too. Accept this, and adopt an attitude of outcome indolence.

Learn not to care about the outcome of your approaches. Just keep making approaches, and when you get rejected, just move on.

Every no you hear gets you closer to that yes.

4. Act Like A Fan. Not A Man

If you spend all your time around a girl kissing her ass, showering her with your precious time and attention, doing what she wants to do, and never taking the lead then you’re acting like a fan. Not a man.

And because of this… you’re not going to get laid. Instead you’ll probably end up getting friend-zoned.

Be the man. Not a fan.

5. Ignore Tried & Tested Advice

And the last item on this list. If you really don’t want to get laid, then just ignore all the tried and tested advice from guys who have no trouble with getting and keeping the women they desire.

Myself, and other guys who have great success with women have gone through a whole lot of trial and error to find out exactly what works… and what does not work…

If you’re smart, and want to get laid, you can save yourself a whole lot of time and effort by paying attention to that hard earned information and putting it into practice for yourself.

I guarantee you, you’ll be pleased with results when you do.

And on that note, if you want to shave years off your entire learning process of how to be successful with women, then my Get Her In Bed program is just what you need.

Details are at the link below:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

Do you really need game to have success with women?

I’ve been hearing a big myth circulating around a lot recently about how having “game” is not necessary to have success with women.

A lot of folks seems to believe that all a man needs to do to be a hit with the ladies is work out, dress sharp, and focus on improving himself.

And whilst I wholeheartedly agree that these are all great things that will increase your odds when it comes to dating, and they are all things that you should be doing… they are not the be all and end all.

If “game” isn’t necessary, then riddle me this…

How come there is a slew of guys who work out regularly, have great jobs, and decent social circles who suck when it comes to dating, and are constantly getting friend-zoned?

The answer?

It’s because they have ZERO “game”.

They simply don’t understand what really makes a chicks panties wet, and what women really want from a man. (Not what they say or “think” they want)

And if “game” is not necessary, how come some very average (and below average) looking guys, who are far from rich, can go out to a club any night of the week and be practically guaranteed to get to get laid.

Again, the answer is because “game” is necessary for success with women.

Being in shape, having plenty of cash in the bank, and being well dressed can help compensate somewhat for a lack of game… but you will never achieve the level of success with women that you’re capable of achieving without game.

Without game, you’ll never land that ideal woman, who’s not only good looking, but has a brilliant personality, because the sad truth is you’re not going to be able to keep her interested in you and she’s going to get swooped up by some other guy who does have game.

Without game, you’re selling yourself short.

Now don’t get it twisted.

I’m a big believer in self-improvement.

By all means, go to the gym and take care of your body.

By all means, put effort into your appearance and wear clothes that fit you well.

By all means, focus on achieving your personal goals, pursuing your hobbies, and bettering yourself in every which way possible.

But understand that no amount of self-improvement will ever completely make up for a lack of game.

Even the guys who are successful with women who say you don’t need game are usually using some sort of game. You’ll notice this if you study their behavior. They’re just not aware they’re using game. It’s just something that comes naturally to them.

However, to most of us mere mortals (yes, myself included), game is not something that just comes naturally.

Game is something you need to commit some time to learning.

And if you’re ready to learn game and unlock your true potential, the Get Her In Bed program awaits:

Link below:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

Would you smooth shave just to get laid?

Here’s a little story (and important lesson) from an *almost* casual encounter I had back in my younger years.

The scene so far…

I had met this chick through an online dating site, we had met up for a casual date and had a few drinks as we both got to know each other. The girl seemed fairly nice, no red flags, but I wasn’t really that into her either.

If things went well, I was thinking I’d probably end up banging her after this date, and probably never see her again.

And things were going well…

We finished our drinks and we both ended up heading back to her place since she lived nearby. After 15 minutes back at her place, I was making out with her, we were both undressing and things seemed to be going swell.

Until she went ahead and made an odd request.

She insisted that she’d only be down for a bit of the old in-out, in-out, if I shaved my pubic hair completely smooth.

I could only laugh at this hilarious request.

Now understand, it’s not like I’m rocking a jungle down below. I tend to keep things fairly trim because I enjoy getting head, and find girls give more enthusiastic head when they don’t have to deal with getting hair stuck in their teeth.

But this chick just had some weird phobia of hair.

So it was not to be… I’m not going to shave myself bare at the request of some chick I’m not even that into.

But I had to ask her…

“How many guys actually shave themselves for you?”

Her answer?

“All of ones I ask.”

All I can say is that there must be a hell of a lot of thirsty men out there if that’s the lengths they’re willing to go to for a casual romp.

But I can sympathize. In my younger days, when I was less versed in the ways of attracting women, I probably would have been willing to shave myself bare for a one night stand.go

By the way, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with shaving off your pubes. If that’s you thing, by all means rock it.

But as a man you’ve got to have integrity. You’ve got to live by your own set of standards, and you can’t bend those standards just to try and please a woman. Because if you do, it never ends up good.

You might see a short term positive benefit, but eventually the woman is going to resent you for being soft and bending your standards for her.

When you have a slew of dating options, you wouldn’t even consider doing such a thing.

And if you want to learn how to discover how to have an abundance of dating options, and get women into you bed (no smooth shaving required), then peep the link below for more info:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

6 signs you’re a wuss around women

If you’ve ever wondered why a woman has pulled away from you after you’ve seemingly done something nice for her, it’s probably because doing so made you come across as a wussy man.

I know nobody wants to hear that there acting like a wuss, and I hope for the most part I’m preaching to the choir when I bang on about this stuff.

But almost every day when I’m out, going about my business, I’ll see guys acting like complete wussies for their girlfriend… Or worse, their girl “friend”.

Women are not attracted to wussy men.

Never have been.

Never will be.

But acting like a wuss is a fixable problem. Hell, when I was young and clueless, I 100% have acted like a wuss towards a girl.

So I believe it’s my moral duty to do what I can to help out all the guys out there who are struggling with wussy behavior and probably aren’t even aware that it’s a problem. (It’s always the guys who are most adamant that they don’t need this advice that need it most. I know because I used to be THAT GUY)

That’s why I’ve put together this little list.

6 signs you’re a wuss around women

1. You tell her you have feelings for her, too soon (Generally you should let her bring up the feelings discussion first)
2. Always asking her what she wants instead of taking the lead
3. You call or text her too often (Note: if you’re calling her more than she’s calling you, you’re calling too often)
4. Acting subservient or submissive around her.
5. Always accepting her demands, doing her favors, and falling for her manipulative behavior.
6. Putting her wants and needs ahead of your own.

It may seem a little counter-intuitive that putting a girl first, showing her affection, letting her know how you feel about her, and letting her make the decisions would be a bad thing to do.

But these are all terrible things to do because they send a girl the message that you don’t value yourself and that she is dating down.

Every girl wants to date up.

And when I say that I don’t mean in terms of looks, because how you look doesn’t matter to woman as much as a bunch of other factors when it comes to attraction.

Things like taking the lead in the relationship, putting yourself first, and not acting needy is going to make you far more attractive to a woman than all the good looks in the world.

And if you want to learn how to cultivate those qualities in your own personality, and discover how to bring more beautiful women into your life, and into your bedroom, then here’s your link:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

Seduction secrets of a Castaway

Yesterday it was Superman… Today it’s Castaway. That’s right, I’m back with more relationship lessons from the silver screen.

*Spoiler warning* I’m about to reveal parts of the plot of Castaway so if you’ve not seen that movie and are planning on watching it you’ve been warned. (Although it came out back in 2000, so if you’re going to watch it you probably would have done so already)

Anyways,

In the movie, a man (played by Tom Hanks) becomes marooned on island in the middle of nowhere after his plane crash lands in the Ocean. His only company on the island… a volleyball with a face drawn on it.

He thinks he’s never going to make it off the island, so he thought that the only thing he could control was how he died.

So he made a rope, and climbed to the summit to hang himself. Upon testing the tree he was going to hang himself from, the limb of the tree snapped… He felt powerless… he didn’t even have the power to end his own life.

“And that’s when this feeling came over me like a warm blanket. I knew, somehow, that I had to stay alive. Somehow. I had to keep breathing.”

And keep breathing he did.

Eventually the fiberglass walls of one of those portable toilets wash up on shore and he manages to use them as a sail to get off the island and return home. But the only reason he ever managed to get off that island is because he did whatever it took to keep breathing.

So you’re probably thinking right about now, that’s all well and good Vince, but how does this relate to relationships?

Well women are a dime a dozen. There’s at least 3.5+ billion of them on the planet right now.

But finding the right woman to get into a serious relationship with. A woman who is capable of meeting your high standards that you should most certainly have. (Quick side note: If you’re going to have high standards for women, you also need to set high standards for yourself and hold yourself to those standards. But that’s a topic for another day…)

A quality woman worthy of your commitment is a lot rarer.

She’s a bit like the fiberglass walls of a porta-potty, and you’re Tom Hanks marooned on an island.

And the only way you’re going to find that right woman is if you keep breathing, keep approaching new women, keep getting phone numbers, and keep going on dates until you find the right one.

My recommendation?

Make the effort to approach and start a conversation with at least one new woman every single day.

Not every one of them is going to be looking for a relationship, not every one of them is going to be right for you. But so long as you keep putting yourself out there, you’re going to eventually come across the right woman for you.

And if you don’t know what to say to start a good conversation with a woman, or if you don’t know how best to guide the direction of the conversation so you end up with her digits and date on the cards… then don’t worry.

I explain how do all of that in Get Her In Bed program.

Want to get off the island? Then here’s the link for you:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland

The George Costanza attraction secret

You can learn a lot about human nature, psychology and the dynamics of attraction from studying comedy and sitcoms.

Take the hit 90’s sitcom Seinfeld for example.

In one of my favorite episodes, Jerry’s latest girlfriend hates Jerry’s best friend George Costanza.

This really bothers George. In fact, it bothers him so much that he becomes obsessed with getting her to like him.

At one point in the episode, he even says to Jerry:

“This woman hates me so much, I’m starting to like her. She just dislikes me so much… It’s irresistible. A woman that hates me this much comes along once in a lifetime.”

It’s quite a funny scene, but the reason it’s so funny is because it’s based on truth. (All of the funniest comedy is based on truth)

Showing indifference towards someone can make that person more attracted towards you. I know it sounds counter-intuitive when you think about it logically, but that’s because it works on a deep emotional level.

When you understand exactly how the dynamics of this indifference works you can use it yourself to create an attraction in a woman’s mind that didn’t initially exist. This is a very powerful technique that I’ve taught to a lot of guys who have used it to escape the friend-zone with a girl who has shown no prior signs of attraction towards them. You have to be careful how you use this concept though. Do it wrong and you’ll just end up coming across as rude and weird.

Because of this, I’ve laid out a 4 stage plan on the most effective way to use this technique. I call it the reversal attraction method and it works like a charm.

By following the 4 steps of the reversal attraction method to the letter, you’ll be able to completely change a woman’s perception of you into someone she wants to date.

I can’t promise this method is going to work on 100% of woman. For example if she’s a lesbian then this obviously isn’t going to work.

But if there’s even the slightest chance that a girl has it in herself to feel attracted to you, the reversal attraction method is going to be the spark that’s needed to get that attraction burning.

If you want to feast your eyes on the complete reversal attraction method, you’ll want to sign up for the Get Her In Bed program and click to the “Girl In Your Life” section in the members area.

Here’s the link: https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland