Why you don’t want to be a Pick-Up Artist

The term PUA (pick up artist) and the whole “PUA lifestyle” seems to be garnering a bit more media attention as of late.

Most of which is fairly negative.

Which may seem a little confusing to some guys, because… if learning pick up will make you seem more attractive to women (which it can), shouldn’t it be viewed as a positive thing by both men and women?

You’d think so, but the idea of “pick up” can rub a lot of girls the wrong way.

Reason being, a lot of women like to believe in the idea of fate when it comes to love and dating. They want to believe that it was fate that you and her met… and you didn’t just meet because you were approaching a large number of girls.

And another reason that PUA’s get a lot of bad press is that they are generally perceived as being disrespectful to women. Now, in most cases, that’s probably not true. But it doesn’t change the fact that this is how they are typically perceived by the majority of people.

So what’s the solution for the guy who wants to have more success with women, but doesn’t want to be labeled as another sleazy pick up artist?

The answer is simple.

Long term, you want to aim to be thought of as a charmer, instead of a pick-up artist.

What’s the difference you ask?

Well it largely comes down to one key distinction.

Pick up is something that a pick up artist “does”. Whereas for a charmer, being charming and having success with women just becomes an extension of his personality.

I know that distinction may seem a little vague and arbitrary, so let’s dive a little into the differences of what I consider to a “pick up artist” vs a “charmer” to make it a little clearer.

The charmer approaches women, dates women, and sleeps with women, because he enjoys doing so… Whereas the pick-up artist sleeps with girls primarily to validate himself and brag about his “notch count”.

The charmer has standards when it comes to the women he sleeps with or dates… The pick-up artist has much lower standards and will regularly have one night stands with women who likely have a high chance of having an STI.

The charmer starts conversations with the women he comes across in his day to day life… Whereas a pick up artist goes out of his way to approach women

Now don’t get me wrong.
I’m a big advocate of guys who are new to game going out of their way and approaching a large number of women. Mainly so they get used to being rejected so it no longer phases them, and so they can get over any approach anxiety they might have.

But you don’t want to be taking this approach to dating and women long term.

Because if you do go down that path for the long term, you’ll without a doubt develop a jaded attitude towards women and dating… and you’re going to burn yourself out.

Instead, aim to become a charmer.
Because, in doing so, you’re going to have a much more enjoyable experience, and develop far more fulfilling relationships with women than a pick up artist ever will.

Want to take your first step towards becoming a charming man?

Then the 5 principles of attraction in the Get Her In Bed program is a great place to start.

Here’s your link:

https://GetHerInBed.com/GetHerInBed

Until tomorrow,
Vince Sutherland