So You Want A Girlfriend Do Ya?

A lot of the great info on this site is geared towards approaching, seducing, and bedding new women on a consistent basis, but I know that quite a lot of the readers here at Principles of Seduction are also interested in getting involved in a serious long term relationship with a woman.

So I’m going to give you some tips today on how to go about getting into an LTR the right way.

A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that if they are going to get into a relationship with girl that they don’t need to use game anymore.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you want to have a happy long term term relationship then constantly gaming your girl is key.

And this all starts with how you go about getting into the relationship.

As you likely already know, control your frame is vital if you want to have success with women.

And so it is with relationships, you want to start the relationship within the right frame.

In this context, it means you have to let the woman make the first move towards the two of you being exclusive. This frames you in the position of power, and as the one who is being “chased” by her.

Now, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “that’s all well and good, but how do I go about making a woman take the first step to asking for us to be exclusive?”

Well I’m glad you asked.

It’s rather simple really. The following “tactic” works around 80% – 90% of the time. And the 10% – 20% of girls it doesn’t work on have zero interest in being in a committed relationship with you anyway.

So you could say it’s foolproof.

Here’s what you do.

You’ve approached this woman, hit things off with her, been on a few dates. You’ve been sleeping with her and seeing her (doing things other than just sex) for a few months now.

Once you’ve got that situation all set up – which I show you how to do in Get Her In Bed –  it’s just a matter of time before she’s going to initiate “the talk” with you.

It’s rare you’ll come across a woman who is happy to be in a casual relationship long term.  They all want commitment at some point.

So wait it out for a few months and she’ll be asking for the pair of you to become “official” BF/GF before you know it.

At this point, the relationship power is in your hands.

You don’t want to get super excited and say yes right away. Your best bet is to hem and haw a little. Tell her you need to think about it. Then a day or two later you can agree to being in a committed relationship with her if that’s what you truly want.

Doing this will put you in the relationship driving seat.

It’s vital that you never ask a woman to become your girlfriend. Be patient, and always let the woman be the one to push for commitment.

To do so would frame you as the “chaser” and not the one being “chased” – which is not a good frame to enter a relationship with.

You’re much more likely to have a happy long term relationship if you let her ask for commitment first.

And second piece of advice for guys looking to get into an LTR is very similar to the first, so I’ll keep this brief.

You should NEVER be the one to bring up talk of feelings or emotions first, and you should NEVER tell a girl you love her before she has told you that she loves you.

It’s all about frame.

Ignore this advice at your relationships peril.